Are you worried about your wedding speech? Need
assistance or advice on what say and who to thank? As a professional
MC host, Tim has vast experience in coordinating the speeches at your
Wedding Reception. The following is some information from the perspective
of an MC, that may assist you in organising how and what you will say.
The Importance of Speeches
Speeches are an age old tradition at Wedding Receptions. They
can be either strict, formal, creative, interesting or amusing.
|The most important part about the speeches at your Wedding Reception,
is to keep them short and interesting, as there are many other formalities
that need to be addressed as the Reception progresses.
|The Speeches should follow either the Entrees (earlier in the
Reception), or follow directly after the Main Meal. The latter is
definitely recommended by Magnet, however, each Wedding Reception
agenda is different, so feel free to be flexible.
|Keeping in mind cultural differences and today's flexibility,
the following is a more traditional approach to the order and length
of the speeches. Feel free to be creative with the information provided
here, this is simply Magnet's recommended format.
This is generally a very brief formality, where an MC, guest,
relative, or member of the Bridal Party asks the guests to "Charge
their glasses and please be upstanding", followed by a "To
the Bride & Groom". The audience will echo "To the
Bride & Groom", and may even break into a traditional
|"For they are jolly good fellows, For they are jolly good
fellows, For they are jolly good fellows, and so say all of us".
|The versions of this tune vary considerably depending on the cultural
and moral backgrounds of the guests.
Speech by the parents of the bride &
Traditionally the Father of the Bride will speak first, followed
by the Mother of the Bride, Father of the Groom, and finally the
Mother of the Groom.
|It has become traditional at Weddings for the parents of the Bride
& Groom to speak first, the choice of which parents will be
speaking at the Reception varies.
|The parents of the Bride & Groom speech should consist of
thank-you's to certain relatives, acknowledgement of events that
have been specifically organised by the parents of the Bride &
Groom, and a toast to the newly wed couple.
|It is also a good idea to include some interesting and amusing
stories of the Bride & Groom's childhood and courtship, as well
as some interesting domestic tales and habits. Most of all, it is
important to keep the mood light hearted and witty if possible.
|Speeches by the parents of the Bride & Groom should be not
exceed 10 minutes
Response by the Best Man
The Best Man has two roles to play during the speeches.
|The first is to relay interesting and amusing stories about the
Wedding Couple, and the second is to propose a Toast to the Brides
Maids, followed by the traditional "For they are jolly good
lassies, For they are jolly good lassies, For they are jolly good
lassies, and so say all of us".
|The Best Man's speech normally includes snippets about the Bucks
Night, and also some tales of his/her friendship with the Bride
|The speech by the Best Man should be not exceed 10 minutes.
|Note: It is not tradition that the Groomsman to give a speech,
nor is it tradition that the Brides Maids or Matron of Honour give
a speech. However, the modern Wedding Reception has introduced many
changes, so feel free to be creative with your speeches, as long
as you keep them to 30 - 45 minutes maximum.
Response by the Bride & Groom
The moment everyone has been waiting for is the response by the
Bride & Groom. It is worth saving the Wedding Couple until
last, in order to create a suspense during the speeches.
|The Bride & Groom may elect to talk together or individually.
|Once again, there is no strict tradition with this, except that
it is tradition for the Bride / Groom's speech to include expressions
of thank-you's to all who participated in the organisation of the
Wedding Day, and also to the guests, friends, relatives, bridal
party, caterers, hair and makeup artists, band, MC etc...
|Speeches by the Bride & Groom should be not exceed 10 minutes.
Reading of the telegrams
The modern version of the Telegram at Weddings, seems to be somewhere
between the traditional "guests that couldn't make it to
the special occasion", and people that want to try out their
favourite jokes and humour.
|However, this is always a tense moment at any Wedding Reception,
and the Telegrams are normally read by the Best Man and Groomsman.
There should be great care taken to edit the Telegrams prior to
reading, as there may be some that will offend certain guests, friends
|The job of editing, normally falls to the Best Man and Groomsman,
but feel free to select a more reliable source of editing.
|The reading of the telegrams should not exceed 10 minutes.